The Holidays may be different this Year

Caring for a Parent With Dementia During the Holidays: Staying Safe, Calm & Connected

The holidays can feel overwhelming when you’re caring for a parent with dementia.

You want joy and connection… while also keeping them safe and comfortable.

Here are simple, realistic ways to make the season peaceful for both of you.

1. Keep the Environment Safe

Small changes make a big difference.

• Reduce clutter & trip hazards

Move cords, scattered decorations, extra chairs, and loose rugs out of walkways.

• Choose calm lighting

Use warm lights—avoid flashing or blinking styles that can confuse or agitate.

• Keep routines steady

Consistent meal times, meds, and sleep schedules reduce stress.

• Prevent wandering

Use doorbells or small bells on doors, and assign one family member to monitor entrances.

• Kitchen safety

Crowded kitchens are risky—include them in simple tasks, but keep them away from heat and sharp objects.

2. Modify Traditions So They Can Enjoy Them

Traditions can stay—just make them gentler.

• Memory Tree ornament

Let them place one simple ornament and share a short memory.

• Holiday hymns

Familiar songs like Silent Night can comfort and calm.

• Simple baking tasks

Stirring batter or sprinkling sugar gives them dignity and inclusion.

• Nativity placement

Let them set one piece at a time to stay engaged.

• Smaller gatherings

Shorter visits with fewer people help prevent agitation.

3. Prepare Guests Ahead of Time

A quick reminder helps everyone:

“Mom may repeat herself.”

“Dad gets tired easily.”

“Let’s keep conversations simple and calm.”

Offer guest-friendly phrases:

• “Take your time.”

• “Tell me more.”

• “Would you like to sit somewhere quieter?”

4. Make Room for Your Emotions

Holidays can bring both joy and grief. It’s okay to step away, breathe, and pray for strength.

“Come to Me, all who are weary… and I will give you rest.” — Matthew 11:28

You are doing sacred work. And you do not walk it alone.

5. Celebrate the Moments That Matter

This year may look different—yet still be meaningful.

A shared smile, a calm morning, or a peaceful hymn together is a gift.

Lean into what is instead of what was.

If you need guidance, support, or community, the Aging Parent Support Society is here to walk this season with you.